Tiny habits

New Years Resolutions, most people make them, myself included. Drink more water, go to the gym, get off social media, be more present, get more sleep, save money etc. . . I was thinking about how I make those resolutions and by mid year I don’t even remember what they were. Why was that I wondered? I came up with the conclusion that I don’t stick to my resolutions because they are not specific enough. This year I’ve trimmed down the list to things I think I can actually manage and I’ve added- When? Where? and How? Basically I realized that in order to stick to those resolutions I must create a habit of it.

One habit that I’m working on creating is stretching. I’ve been a runner all of my life and I’ve never made stretching a priority. Even after numerous injuries I still go to bed thinking, “Crap, I forgot to stretch again, I’ll do it tomorrow.” Why is something so simple, so hard? Habit! I need to make a habit of it. I wrote down Stretching  When : 6:50-7:00am (in between my oldest getting on the bus and my youngest waking up) Where: in the living room   What:  I wrote down 10 different stretches. Bam!! I think I really can do this. I’m encouraging anyone reading this to pick a resolution, just one, and get specific. Maybe by writing this post I’ll feel more accountable too.

What are your resolutions and how are you all planning on keeping them? I’ve added a lit of Tiny Habits that can make a big difference. Try picking one and get specific about how you’ll accomplish it. Lets check in on March 1st and see how we’re all doing!

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Developing habits are a process not an event!

Thanks for reading.

Heather

January: Mt Washington Valley Trip

January is short days and cold temps. A time of resolutions and reflections. In January I break out the new calendar and start filling it up. I don’t know why I love this so much, but I do. I love filling in the birthdays, the annual events, the work schedule, the games, and the new things we will do and learn. They all go on the calendar so I can eagerly await their arrival. I function better when my days are planned, even if its a planned day to do absolutely nothing. One of the first events I fill in is our annual family ski trip over Martin Luther King Weekend. For me it’s important to have something to look forward to in January, to break up the month, and that is this trip.

This year we chose a house in Intervale, NH. The quaint town is part of the Mount Washington Valley, a resort area of the White Mountains. Renting a house vs. separate accommodations is much more economical for us since we stay with two other families. Usually my sister takes on the job scouring Airbnb until she finds the perfect house. http://www.airbnb.com/rooms/3191866

If you are planning on visiting this area on a holiday weekend you need to get your travel timing right or you will be sitting in traffic hell (trust me I know this from experience.) On Friday we left our house on the South Shore around 08:30am to avoid the morning and afternoon rush and thankfully we timed it perfectly. Getting home Monday was another story. We were seated at the Flatbread Company in North Conway by 11:30. If you haven’t been you must! Not only is the atmosphere fun and kid friendly, you can watch your pizzas bake in their wood fired ovens. I highly recommend the Jay’s Heart Pizza, the Mopsy Kalua Chicken Pie, and the Flatbread Salad. Delicious!! https://www.flatbreadcompany.com

Within the Mt. Washington Valley there are many options when it comes to skiing. Cranmore, Bretton Woods, Attitash, Wildcat, and one of our favorites Black Mountain. Like I’ve said before, skiing during holiday periods can get pricey, so we love that Black Mountain is still affordable. On Friday afternoon we purchased a Saturday ticket for Black Mountain and when you purchase a next day ticket they allow you to ski from 2pm-4pm the day of the purchase which is an added bonus. The only downside was that only one lift was open Friday so we couldn’t ski from the summit but that left some new trails to be skied on Saturday. We basically had the whole mountain to ourselves on Friday afternoon. On Saturday the small lodge at Black was packed, but we never waited in line for more than a minute or two while we were skiing. In previous years we had skied at Bretton Woods and it was so crowded that I don’t think we would ever ski there on a Saturday or Sunday during a holiday weekend ever again. It’s personal preference, but our family would rather avoid the crowds. www.blackmt.com

Black Mountain Summit- View of Mt. Washington

Sunday we headed over to Wildcat which is a much larger mountain having over 2100 vertical feet to ski down as apposed to Black’s 1100. Wildcat is notorious for being windy and cold but we were ready. With over a foot of fresh powder and more to come we weren’t really sure what to expect. The kids were excited and ready for the challenge and we geared up with some extra layers and extra hand/body warmers. What a workout. I had never skied in such deep snow and my legs were burning after the first run, but the intensity kept us very warm. We had a great but exhausting day. There definitely weren’t a lot of beginner skiers on the mountain, and I really would recommend Wildcat for the more advanced skier. Lucky for us the Patriots are always in the playoffs during MLK weekend, so we headed home to watch that Epic game before collapsing from pure exhaustion. www.skiwildcat.com

Last year was a rough year for me and I’m really looking forward to 2019. January has started out great and I’m looking to getting some things penciled in to February. What’s filling your calendar this winter? Trips, adventures, learning something new? Please share with me I’m always looking for new ideas.

Thank for reading.

Heather

 

 

Pat’s Peak & Mt. Monadnock- quick winter getaway

Over Christmas break we always look for a quick winter getaway.  We look for something that’s within driving distance.  After the craziness of Christmas we are in need of a change of scenery, some outside time, and most importantly, time to unplug.  We don’t like to book anything too much in advance because the weather is so unpredictable.  Ski lift tickets seem to be getting more and more expensive and who wants to spend that kind of money, especially after the expense of the holidays, if there is no snow, if it is raining, or worse yet someone isn’t feeling well.  This year we chose Pat’s Peak and although we hadn’t planned on it, the weather ending up being perfect for a winter hike up Mt. Monadnock.  Here’s what I thought about both.

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I am constantly searching the internet, reading blogs, reviewing comments on tripadvisor.com,  and talking to friends and family to get ideas for new places to visit.  My sister had recommended a great deal on a ski & stay at the Hampton Inn/Bow, NH.  https://hamptoninn3.hilton.com/en/hotels/new-hampshire/hampton-inn-concord-bow-CCDNHHX/index.html  For a little under $400 we booked a two night stay, Friday-Sunday, which included four anytime ski tickets to Pats Peak and a buffet breakfast for the four of us each morning .  Although we usually prefer to stay somewhere with a kitchen and separate sleeping areas, during Christmas week this type of lodging tends to be way overpriced.  So we made do with the hotel room.  My only negative comment would be that the room was a little warm, but I tend to like sleeping in arctic temperatures.  I would say the beds were very comfortable though. We checked in on Friday afternoon and took the kids to the indoor pool, which was clean but very small.  There were many options for dinner in downtown Concord, NH, about 10 minutes away, and we chose Margaritas.  I wasn’t the best Mexican we’ve had but there was no wait for a table and it was inexpensive.  Actually, the hotel front desk gave us a list of area restaurants and a 10% off voucher which was a nice bonus. After a good nights sleep we headed to breakfast buffet  which was great,  there was plenty of options and we left for skiing full and ready for the day.https://www.patspeak.com

Pat’s peak was an easy 16 mile drive from the hotel.  We were a little nervous on the ride over as it had rained the day before and there wasn’t any natural snow on the ground.  We had read on their website that “Pat’s Peak has one the the largest snowmaking systems per acre in the state of NH” and we were pleasantly surprised by how much snow was on the mountain.  We were on the slopes by 9:30, and we did not wait in any lines all day which was awesome considering it was a Saturday of a school vacation week.  Every trail, except the glades area, of the mountain was open.  The mountain has 11 lifts which were all up and running, but we ended up using the same four lifts that took us to the top of the mountain.  As a family I feel that we are intermediate to advanced skiers.  We really enjoyed the black diamond trail Cyclone and double black Tornado, and although they were marked black diamond, I would compare them to a blue trail of larger mountain.  We were able to ski all of the trails with no difficulty, and made a full day of it skiing from 9:30-4:00 with two short breaks.

We enjoyed the day very much but I feel that in one day at Pat’s Peak we covered every trail that we wanted multiple times and feel like our family would have been board if we spent multiple days there.  Overall I would recommend Pat’s Peak for a day of skiing.  There is great snow making and groomed trails.  I wasn’t crowded and there was no wait time for lifts.  The lodges were clean and it’s one of the closest mountains to us that live south of Boston.

Originally when we headed up for the weekend our plan was to  go night ski on Sunday at nearby Crotched Mt., but unfortunately they are not open for night skiing on Sunday nights so we went to plan B.  It was a beautiful sunny day in the 30’s and I went online to look for a close area to go for a hike.  Although it wasn’t exactly on our route home we chose Mt. Monadnock and I’m so glad we did.  We were greeted at the gate by a friendly park employee who assisted us by giving us a map and recommending a trail to climb.  We paid the $14 fee for entrance, parked, and headed up the white dot trail which was easy to find and is the most direct route to the summit.  The park ranger said we should allow 2 hours  for the 2 mile hike to the summit.  We decided that our legs were pretty tired from skiing the day before and the ranger told us there would be a clearing a little before half way up, which was above the tree line and had a good view, so we thought that would be a good end point.  The hike stared at a steady incline that became steeper and more rocky the higher up we climbed.  We had dressed in multiple layers and were all sweating when we reach the tree line even though it was only about 35 degrees.  There were a few scattered people along the way up but we were mostly by ourselves and it was peaceful and beautiful.  Fortunately it was a clear day and view from the clearing at the tree line was amazing.  The climb down went smooth even though our legs were jello after skiing and the climb up.  We can’t wait to go back and make it to the summit!

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Mt. Monadnock – December 30, 2018 – White Dot Trail

Winter is long and just because it’s cold doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy being outside.  I don’t think our family would make it if we were cooped up all winter, so we go out as often as we can.  Winter can be beautiful and fun. Just bundle up and get out there.  What are your plans for outdoor fun this winter?

Heather

Minimalism

Lately I’ve been more and more interested in learning more about minimalism. I want to clear clutter from my house and my life in general.  I’m so sick of moving stuff around in our house from one room to the next, sick of reorganizing closets and drawers full of stuff I use once a year.  I have six glass vases that i just arranged in one closet, yet i never buy cut flowers.  Why do I need six glass vases???

What really got me thinking about this whole buy-less-thing was that I just bought tickets to a Kentucky Derby Party that will be on May 5th. (Here is the link if you want to attend this years party at East Bay Grill https://www.kingstonfoundationforeducation.org ) I thought to myself, two years ago I went to the same party and I loved the outfit that I wore.  It was comfortable, colorful and perfect for the party.  The thing is though, I have yet to wear that outfit, that I loved, again, because God forbid you wear the same dress twice.  I spent an hour looking at dresses online the other day before I decided, screw it, I’m going to wear the same exact outfit, to the same exact party, and you know what, I felt this lightness come over me after I made that decision.  I don’t need to spend extra money on a whole new outfit.  I don’t need to waste my time shopping for hours and finding the perfect shoes and hat and accessories when I have it already. I feel free.

I read a quote today that hit the nail on the head.

 

The thing that is important is going to Derby Party fundraiser, to raise money for a great cause, and to have a fun time with friends while I’m at it.  What is NOT important is stressing about what to wear.  So my goal is to take away the stressors and enjoy the event, to remember what is important.

I’m going to challenge myself this year. I’m not going to the extreme. I’m not going to stop shopping altogether, but I’m going to be more purposeful. I am a browser by nature.  I love to shop around and look for the best deal on things, but more and more I find that I hate this about myself.  It’s such a waste of time.  I can spend two hours browsing though a store and walk out with nothing.  What a time suck.  Wouldn’t it be better to go for a walk or meet a friend for lunch? To play a game with with the kids or read a book.  Or maybe even pick up a few hours a work.  Well, maybe not that! I will not go to Target for one thing and come out with a cartful (this is going to take a lot of effort)!  I’m going to buy gifts differently too. I want to teach my kids that stuff doesn’t make you happy but rather experiences and relationships are so much more important. I spend so much time searching for the perfect gifts for people and this year I’m not going to do this.  I’m going to give gift cards for experiences.  Less stuff and more experience gifts.

So I’m looking for advice.  What do you do to simplify your life?  To live more meaningful lives, to have less physical and mental  clutter.

Thank you for reading

Heather

 

 

Female

I urge you to listen to this song and not feel it run through your veins.  I don’t care if you are female or male, I don’t care if you think women are overreacting.  (We are not!) What I care about is that we need to acknowledge what is going on.  We need to acknowledge the strength that these women have that are coming forward.  We all have a mother, we have sisters, daughters, friends, and I for one want them to all know that I would stand with them if they were threatened in any way.

Being a female is not only part of me it surrounds me.  My patients are all females, I watch women give birth everyday that I go to work.  Ninety percent of my co-workers are female.   I am surrounded by strong, smart women everyday of my life.  I’m hopeful that if we stand up and support each other, that my daughter’s generation will only be stronger.

I want you to know I stand with you all.  I am female.

Heather 

 

 

Hiking Blue Hills. . .

was the perfect way to spend the morning with my kids.  Today they had a day off from school because it was an inservice day for teachers.  I love when the school tacks on an extra day to a long weekend, especially when it’s a Tuesday, because we get to do something and avoid the crowds of the weekend.  We were so lucky today because not only did they have a day off, but it was sunny and 80 degrees!!

If you haven’t noticed already I really enjoy being outside and being able to disconnect for a while and Blue Hills Reservation is the perfect place to do that.  When I first took the kids a few years ago I have to say I was a bit overwhelmed.  The place is enormous!  I covers 6,000 acres spanning the towns of Quincy, Milton, Braintree, Canton, Randolph, and Dedham. So the first thing I did was print out a map. You can click on the link below for that.

I also look to tripadvisor  for a lot of tips and reviews of trails.  So far, our favorite trails have been Skyline, and Coon Hollow Path.  Depending on where we want to start, that determines what hikes we will do.   Coon Hollow Path starts at the Trailside museum and is a great hike I’ll tell you about another day.  Today we parked at Houghton’s Pond and  started up Breezy Hill and hit Skyline and headed over Tucker Hill to Tucker Hill Path and back down Breezy Hill.  The hike took about an hour with my kids who are 11 and 9 and my two nieces ages 7 and 5.  I would say it’s one of the more challenging trails and the kids loved climbing up rocks to reach the top of Skyline where we stopped for a snack and water break. The trails are well marked and you can follow along on your map.  There is a beautiful view of the Blue Hills Observatory Science Center from one point on the trail.
When we got to the bottom we hit Jenna’s Place and got some slushies to cool off, the kids played in the playground, and then we walked along Houghton’s Pond. In a few more weeks I’m sure it will beautiful when the leave change colors.  I’m hoping in the next year to two to get the kids up to Mt. Monadnock in NH, but for now Blue Hills is a perfect hiking spot only 30 minute drive from our house.  Where are your favorite hiking spots? If you have any special tips about Blue Hills I’d love to hear them.
Thank you for reading,
Heather

The word “Hate”. . .

is a word I do not like my children to use.  The word “hate” makes me cringe.  It’s a word I almost always regret saying and try hard not to use.  The word “hate” makes me angry, makes me sad, makes me feel like there is no hope.  Maybe it’s because the word “hate” means that something is so intensely disliked that there no good in it.

There is always good.  There is always another way to look at something.  There is always  hope.  So in this world that sometimes makes you want to “hate”, take that intense passionate dislike of something and force yourself to “love” something just as passionately.  Do not focus on what you hate.  Focus on what you love.  Love your children, love your spouse, love your family and your friends. Love life. Tell me about something that you love.

Much love,

Heather

When skies are gray in summer on the South Shore. . .

(try to say that 10 times fast!)

Like I’ve said before, we literally live in this place where you never can tell what the weather is going to be like. Day by day, or even hour by hour, it’s as unpredictable as your two year old or tween’s mood.   It’s inevitable that we have a week or two in the summer that is rainy and dreary and pretty darn chilly.  That was this past week. And for those of you that took that week off from work hoping for a sunny, beach filled week, I am so sorry.  Sometimes I think it’s Gods way of protecting our New England skin.  You and I know that we were out there just a few days ago in the heat of the July 4th week burning the crap out of our  skin, and now we’re back to sweaters and jeans.  Only to repeat the process next week. . . . Burn, peel, repeat.

Anyway, back to the main point of this post, and that is, what to do with the kiddos when the weather isn’t so hot in the summer, and better yet how to do that and not go broke.  There are a couple of things I do at the beginning of summer and one of them is to stockpile a list of cheap indoor things to do with the kids when the weather isn’t cooperating.  I use my little notes section of my phone and label it “Summer fun list”.  Every time I come across an email or Facebook post, or someone tells me about a deal or adventure that sounds good I jot it down on the list.  Then when the rain sets in I consult the list.  Here’s a few things I’ve come up with.

  1.  Kidsbowlfree.com      If you haven’t already signed up you need to.  There is no catch.  All kids 15 and under can bowl two strings every single day during the summer for free,  all you need to do is rent shoes.  We’ve signed up for this program for the past 2 years and it’s so easy.  All you do is sign up, print the vouchers, and head to the bowling alley.  You can check the kidsbowlfree website to see if the bowling alley near you participates. There are 19 just in Massachusetts.
  2. https://www.regmovies.com/movies/summer-movie-express Take them to the discounted movies.  Many movie theaters offer discounted movie tickets during the week for movies that were released a few months prior.  For my kids they really don’t care what the movie is, they love the experience of going to the movies.  Regal Cinemas in Kingston, MA offers $1 movie tickets for the 10:00 shows on Tuesday and Wednesday.  They offer two different choices each day. We went this past Tuesday and saw Monster Truck.  With a quick stop at Target for candy it cost me $5.00 for candy and 3 movie passes, and when we got out the Sun was shining again.  I believe many other theaters in the area do similar discounted days just check their websites.
  3. https://hmnh.harvard.edu/home  One that is on our bucket list that we haven’t tried yet is the Harvard Museum of Natural History.  A friend of ours told about this museum and how much her kids loved it so I looked into and put it on my “Summer fun list”  Its not super expensive at $12 for adults and $8 for kids but Sunday mornings during the summer from 9am-12pm it’s free admission.
  4. https://ssboston.macaronikid.com/articles/5825dc2bdafd905530a174a4/south-shore-playground-guide   What better thing to do on a cool summer day than hit the playground.  One of my kids favorites is Marshfield playground,  it’s great for older kids to play hide and seek.  Load up the car with some of their friends and they have fun for hours.  Add an ice cream or fro-yo to the trip and you are mom of the year.
  5. http://www.highlandstreet.org/programs/free-fun-fridays  With over 85 different museums and cultural events available for free every Friday during the summer it would be crazy not to take advantage of this opportunity.  Whether it’s a rainy day or you just need to get out of the sun checking some of these places out is also on our “Summer fun list.”

Where do you go when the sun hides for a few days.   Do you stay in and watch movies?  Do you have a favorite thing that you love doing with the kids? Let me know.  I’m always looking to add to the “List.”
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Thank you for reading, and as always “The sun will come out tomorrow.” – Heather

 

The art of being a little bit good at a lot of things.

As I sat down to finally write about all of the fun stuff we’ve already done in the first few days of summer, or maybe all the fun things that we plan on doing, I came to a conclusion.  I am good at being part-time at things.  I’ve never really been good at the all- or-nothing approach.  I’m better at being ok at something and not great at it, better at  not putting to much time into one thing, because being ok at something actually makes me happier and it’s way less pressure.

I really wanted to be a great blogger, and I had ideas of writing at least once a week but that hasn’t happened and probably never will.  Sometimes I might write two or three times a week and then not write again for a month or two, who knows, but life gets in the way and I’d rather do other stuff and have other priorities at different times.

I really love running, but I’ll never run a marathon.  I used to go out for a run thinking I needed to run fast and be competitive but I actually prefer running at a slower pace and only three miles because honestly it’s comfortable and I enjoy it.  I’m much better suited for a part-time job too.  Enough to get me out of the house, using my brain and doing something that brings me satisfaction but not so much that I feel overwhelmed.  I’m also better at being a part introvert, part extrovert.  Sometimes I really want to be social and go out, but I know that if I over do it I get sick and run down so I need to balance the dinners and drinks with being tucked in bed at eight o’clock. Balance for me is being a little bit good at a lot of things.  Taking my rocks and making sure none of them is too big or my statue might fall.
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So take it or leave it, I’m a part time blogger.  I’ll do it when I have time.  I will definitely be writing about some pretty fun adventures and things to do in New England this summer, I just don’t exactly know when.

What type of personality are you?  All or nothing, go big or go home, or are you a part-timer? It takes all kinds.

Enjoy the beginning of summer.  I can’t wait to see what’s in store.

Heather

We are. . .

all united in one special way.

We were given our firsts on their special day.

We screamed or were silent.

We laughed or we cried.

We did it with our loved ones right there by our sides.

We labored through pain, or had scheduled c-sections,

Or the agency called saying we were accepted.

We all have a story of how we became mothers.

Different numbers of children, of sisters and brothers.

We are so very different yet with one common name.

They all call us “Mom”. . . so in a way we’re the same.

˜Heather Powderly

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